This is how it happens...

This is how it happens..
     You only hear of this stuff happening to other people.. you wonder how this kind of thing happens - 'What were they thinking??' and never think it will happen to you.

     Ok, I get home and notice the light blinking on our answering machine, right?  But before I can listen, the phone rings and it is my Granny calling..She wanted to know why we still had not come to get the tractor..and who was using her house when she wasnt there..

  Here is some backstory on Granny.. The end of April she started feeling bad and drove her self to see her dr who, upon examination, admits her to the hospital for pneumonia..while she is there, they find not only does she have pneumonia, but sometime recently, she has had a heart attack and also has a bloodclot in her leg.  They alsofeel it is necessary for my Uncle to file for Guardianship as he is already the Executor of her Estate..So he does and she stays in the hopsital for a few days then gets moved to a nursing care facility..
She recovers from her sickness and wants to go home but, she has admitted many times of forgetting to take her meds and to falling down..Long story short - She is now staying in the nursing facility and not happy about it.. Her dr has recomended that she stay there since she can't/won't take her meds. (If she had taken the meds, she would not have the blood clot)..She has also begun telling me things about my Uncle- what he did or didn't do for her, and this is all his fault she can't go home..and some of these things I find out later, just aren't true..They (her dr.s) are saying she has dementia and can't be trusted to live by her self..

  Back to the Present-  I said earlier she called me.. as I listened to her- she mentions of her visit to her house yesterday, and that she spent the night.. WHAT?!! Then she said she would talk to me later and hangs up.. WHAT DID SHE SAY??!!!  Spent the night?? I then listen to the 2 messages on my machine and they are both from my Uncle and both times he tells me to call him..so I do and this is what he told me...

  Yesterday morning her Minister and Minister's hubby came to take her to church, they signed her out and went to church.. When church was over, she instructed Minister's hubby to instead of taking her to her nursing home, just take her to her house because her granddaughter (me) was coming to take her back later.. (that was soooo not true!!!)  So, he leaves her there.. without thinking that maybe he should check with someone...and she stays there all day and SPENDS THE NIGHT!!!!!

OMG!!!

Then gets up this morning and MOWS THE YARD!!!!

OMG!!!

 did I mention her age?? She is 91 years old!!

 So, a wonderful neighbor, who has been taking care of her house and dogs, shows up to mow today and notices that the yard looks freshly mowed.. as she makes her way around the side of the house, she hears a commotion in front and walks around to the front porch and finds Granny sitting there with the dogs!!!  Can you say CONFUSED?? Boy was she!! (The neighbor, not Granny)  She asked her what she was doing home and she tells her that she spent the night and my Uncle was coming to take her to the nursing home..(soooo not true, either!) Wonderful Neighbor smells something fishy and calls Uncle, who informs her that he is NOT in town and knows NOTHING about her being at home!!!

WHOA!!!

 So, Wonderful Neighbor gets Granny to go to nursing home with her, on the way there- Granny asked her to take her to Wal-Mart, so she does.. After Wal-Mart, Wonderful Neighbor starts to the nursing home and Granny suggested they go back to her house for lunch- Wonderful Neighbor then tells Granny no, she thinks they need to get back to the nursing home and there, she can eat lunch...Luckily, Granny agrees to this and to the nursing home they go!!
  Meanwhile, Uncle is so shaken up, he calls the nursing home to see what is going on, and they didn't even REALIZE she was GONE!!!! OMG!!! She was gone all day yesterday and all night and half of today!!!

OMG!!!

   This is how it happens!!! The elderly just walk out or away and are never seen or heard from again!!! I am so very thankful that she was fine and that Wonderful Neighbor decided to mow!!!  

  The nursing home hasn't or won't fess up to the error on their part.. Uncle said they are being very nonchalant about the whole thing!!! This is soooo not acceptable!!!! EVER!!!!!

I can't decide what is more disturbing.. the fact that she wasn't missed, or the fact that she spent the night at her house all alone and without her meds, or that she mowed her yard!!!!  

This is probably why I'm unhinged....

By the way--there hasn't been anyone using her house-the last time we visited, we brought bottled water and put it in her fridge...and we are waiting on a trailer for the tractor...